Have you ever thought of your mind as a multiverse?

A collection of dreams, a twirl of thoughts.

We process a million thoughts each second, random, simultaneous, like the un-closed tabs on a computer screen, always running in the background, always taking in most of the battery. And with each thought comes a million emotions, some clearly visible and most, unnoticed. We sometimes forget to truly process our emotions; to live through all of the smiles, tears and fears.

But isn’t the purpose of life to live through it?

And what’s life without going through all of the emotions?

How different are we?

There is a unique and distinct way by which everyone interacts with themselves and also with others; emotional displays and body language.

Psychologists classify emotions as primary and secondary, to simplify the understanding of the human mind. They say primary emotions are the basic emotions, like joy and sadness, that can be experienced universally, and secondary emotions are about how one feels about a situation, like feeling angry when anxious.

But human emotions are not simple, they are complex and not meant to be named and defined. You don’t have to specify why or how you feel, but you have to understand that it’s normal. And for that, we need to know what we are feeling and what the people around us would feel. It’s just to acknowledge and accept who we are, what we are made of, how we take things and how we see the world.

No one is invisible

If you closely watch someone you love, you will realize that they show more emotions than they could even recognize. There is a unique emotional signature that defines each of us and sometimes some people would truly see them.

“You are not a surprise to those who love you.”

They would see the way you would get wrinkles in your eyes when you try to hide your smile, the way you would react in anger – slam doors, break plates, go silent or cry out loud, and the way you would adjust your hair when you are anxious. Maybe these are little, but people notice; people who love notice, because they know your signature. They know you.

And it’s okay to let them know. You don’t have to define yourself or hide yourself from the perceptions of the world just because you think your emotions are extra or because you feel like they are meant to be hidden. You could hide but not become invisible. Because eventually, they would know.

A subconscious pattern

“We are just creatures of habit.”

We all have a specific pattern, a blueprint by which we express and react. And most of the time, we don’t even notice how it works with us. We don’t realize whether our smile is crooked to the right or left, we don’t know whether our eyes are moist filled, every time we feel loved. And of course most of the time, we don’t notice how the people around us are unique in their expression.

And even if we realize our emotional uniqueness, we can do nothing about it. We could try to mask our expressions, but in the end, somehow our true signature would come out. Maybe this is another reason that we should start noticing each other.

It starts with noticing

Noticing and loving is easy when it starts with the ones closer to you.

We would have seen the way our dad would look at us with a gleam in his eyes when we surprise him with a shirt. The way our mom stares at us for too long when we do something stupid. The way you would rub your hands together before checking the results. The way people fall in love, slowly leaning in as if memorizing every moment of it. The way people would hesitate for a moment before confessing. The way people live; subtle, easy and effortless.

There are so many patterns that most of us don’t notice, so many little lives that a person carries wherever they go.

“My thoughts are stars I can’t fathom into constellations.”

-John Green

Maybe you can’t, but your people can.

With this, we wish that before it all gets too late, we won’t forget that we are humans, made solely to fall in love, to exist with others, to understand and to live through life. And let’s not lose the little ways that make us, us. And let’s not let life get in the way and not stop noticing our emotional habits and those of our people. Let’s not live too fast and forget to feel.